Beating the Blame Game

Beating the Blame Game by chapter37

It’s the start of a new year, new opportunities, new difficulties, and more of the old challenges that appear year after year. I’m not huge on new year’s resolutions, or words for the year, or that sort of thing. However, I do like to set goals for myself.

This year I think my main goal is to live on purpose, one choice at a time. Choices are what make us an individual, they give us the freedom to succeed or to fail. The moment I hand over my choice to someone else, to some circumstance, to some excuse, I have forfeited my freedom as an individual. How I was raised, or who I am married to, or how my kids act, or what my financial situation, or the state of my employment, or my physical abilities, or the scope of my possessions, or how I have been treated do not dictate how I act today. They may be a reason for my natural tendencies, but it is when I allow my reasons to become my excuses that I have swallowed a lie. Those things do not decide my attitude, they do not decide my actions. I decide. Other people’s actions are not the measure for my own. Circumstances are rarely ideal, what of it? I am still free to choose for myself if I will be beaten by circumstance,or if I will be better because of them.

I’ve gotten more than one speeding ticket in my time. Not a single time was the police officer interested in hearing about how that red Toyota disappearing over the hill provoked me into speeding, or that I was late, or that I lost track of the speed limit. None of it mattered. I was the driver, I was doing wrong, so time to pay up sister! God created you and I as completely unique individuals. He offers His love and His grace to each of us on an individual basis. He built in us the wonderful ability of choice. With that ability comes the heavy responsibility of the outcome of those choices. I am free to ask for His help to make right choices, or I can make choices on my own. Either way, I am responsible. I can play the blame game however much I wish, but I’m still the driver. The best way to beat the blame game is to choose to stop playing it. No one is more responsible for my own actions, than myself. I can’t think of a better way to spend a fresh new year than by living it day by day, on purpose.

1 John 4:4   Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world. 

P.S. This is our day on the blog to refocus. You can find more refocus challenge posts HERE.

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